Misery is Optional - Pain is inevitable

There are things in life that one learns about. There are millions of motos out there to go with the lessons that we learn. Some of which, I think I just took for granted. For the motos, seem to be proven to be correct in my life!! One of which is the title of this blog.

Misery is optional - Pain IS inevitable.

Life on life's terms is not easy, nor did anyone ever toss me that thought, that it would be easy. Yet, when it comes at you broad sided, what do you do???

Do you find yourself sitting in the thoughts of HOW to fix it - control it - make it better? OR do you find yourself running from it??OR do you find yourself wallowing, feeling sorry for yourself, deep in pity? OR do you find yourself reaching for a greater power and asking for direction and strength??

Honestly, I do all of the above - from beginning to end!!

Yet, where I am in life today, is the at the place where I KNOW in my heart, mind and soul that I need to reach out to a higher power, one that can help me. For I will live in misery if I do not seek out that power, that direction, that strength.

Misery does not really soot me well. For it interrupts my journey in this life. It hurts the people I love, that includes myself. It wedges awful feelings in between me and my loved ones. It takes away any calmness or serenity that I have built up within. It brings a darkness and loneliness that is unbearably ill feeling within my soul. It feels like rotten milk building up within my guts. Misery does love company, for it will put my bottom into my bed and let me rot away there. Where no one, me or my loved ones, will benefit from.

Pain, which is inevitable, will come and go. If I allow it. If I do not allow it - it builds this defensive wall with misery and they feed off of each other, until they have won the battle and put my body into a deep depression.

Pain, when I allow it to flow as it naturally should, it comes out in many different forms. Normally, I am very crabby until I realize, that I am in pain and just need to cry!! ( sometimes it is just the venting that gets me to the actually feeling ) Once I have allowed myself the permission to feel this pain, I have allowed myself the permission to GROW.

Once I have followed through the pain, the miracle forms. Forms into a beautiful strength that my higher power has given to me. A strength that is utilized to do many different forms of many different things. It has now shaped me, my soul, into a deeper more beautiful being. Allowing myself to be that better person, friend, lover, parent and whatever else my soul was meant to be.

In all reality, the pain that is brought to us in life, has been brought for many reasons. Some of which one will never know until many moons later in life. Yet, that gift of pain, has now formed you into a better person. One whom you chose to be comfortable with and one that others want to be around!!

Pain allows you to be real, the person that your HP has meant for you to be.

Be true to you and feel the pain - leave misery behind!!