Misery is Optional - Pain is inevitable

There are things in life that one learns about. There are millions of motos out there to go with the lessons that we learn. Some of which, I think I just took for granted. For the motos, seem to be proven to be correct in my life!! One of which is the title of this blog.

Misery is optional - Pain IS inevitable.

Life on life's terms is not easy, nor did anyone ever toss me that thought, that it would be easy. Yet, when it comes at you broad sided, what do you do???

Do you find yourself sitting in the thoughts of HOW to fix it - control it - make it better? OR do you find yourself running from it??OR do you find yourself wallowing, feeling sorry for yourself, deep in pity? OR do you find yourself reaching for a greater power and asking for direction and strength??

Honestly, I do all of the above - from beginning to end!!

Yet, where I am in life today, is the at the place where I KNOW in my heart, mind and soul that I need to reach out to a higher power, one that can help me. For I will live in misery if I do not seek out that power, that direction, that strength.

Misery does not really soot me well. For it interrupts my journey in this life. It hurts the people I love, that includes myself. It wedges awful feelings in between me and my loved ones. It takes away any calmness or serenity that I have built up within. It brings a darkness and loneliness that is unbearably ill feeling within my soul. It feels like rotten milk building up within my guts. Misery does love company, for it will put my bottom into my bed and let me rot away there. Where no one, me or my loved ones, will benefit from.

Pain, which is inevitable, will come and go. If I allow it. If I do not allow it - it builds this defensive wall with misery and they feed off of each other, until they have won the battle and put my body into a deep depression.

Pain, when I allow it to flow as it naturally should, it comes out in many different forms. Normally, I am very crabby until I realize, that I am in pain and just need to cry!! ( sometimes it is just the venting that gets me to the actually feeling ) Once I have allowed myself the permission to feel this pain, I have allowed myself the permission to GROW.

Once I have followed through the pain, the miracle forms. Forms into a beautiful strength that my higher power has given to me. A strength that is utilized to do many different forms of many different things. It has now shaped me, my soul, into a deeper more beautiful being. Allowing myself to be that better person, friend, lover, parent and whatever else my soul was meant to be.

In all reality, the pain that is brought to us in life, has been brought for many reasons. Some of which one will never know until many moons later in life. Yet, that gift of pain, has now formed you into a better person. One whom you chose to be comfortable with and one that others want to be around!!

Pain allows you to be real, the person that your HP has meant for you to be.

Be true to you and feel the pain - leave misery behind!!

The Fear of Letting Go

I have found myself wondering, how letting go would help oneself. With that thought process I of course, was not doing any footwork, as I was very afraid to let go.

The fear of letting go ( in this case, an individual ) was far to strong. It seemed it would captivate me, thinking that if I let go, what else would I know? The fear of the unknown. The fear of the comfortable feeling that I knew so well. The fear of how hard will this next step be. The plain ole fear.

Than, I find myself realizing, the fear with all of the above thoughts and more, was taking alot of needed energy. Energy that I need to motivate myself through out the day. Energy that I need to run after two small Children. Energy that I need to do my workouts. Energy needed to eat, drink, sleep and keep up on my well being. Alot of my energy being, shall we say, wasted in FEAR.

After realizing that my energy was being wasted and that the fear of letting go was way more overpowering than it needed to, I realized, why not just let go? Seriously, could you be more hurt than you already have? Probably not, if so, you made it through this part of your life, I am pretty sure you will make it through a hella lot more.

After letting go, it seems that the energy that I was wasting, has been able to be put to good use!!

Not only the energy that I was wasting, but the serenity that I was blocking, seemed to flow back in! It was a beautiful thing!! To be able to see the miracles that sit right in front of me, to be able to enjoy the moment as it is - Not as I would have it!! How Amazing!! The joy of letting go!!!!!!

I do not know what the whole entirety of letting go will entail, BUT, I do KNOW that it has been a freeeing experience. I just wish I had not waited so long!!

Now that I am outta the way -- The REAL miracle will prevail!!!

**Just need to keep letting go and NOT take it back ( theres the key )